tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2988935280992028565.post3064892532906243648..comments2023-09-28T08:09:27.958-06:00Comments on flying under the gaydar: let me do the talking.drexhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08140401181617757573noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2988935280992028565.post-79693901083815875732007-03-30T09:18:00.000-06:002007-03-30T09:18:00.000-06:00This is something I have been thinking a lot about...This is something I have been thinking a lot about lately. I have realised that the façade I have let everyone see my whole life is a great big pack of lies. I have pretended for so long, that I started to believe it myself. I have had to take a long hard look at myself, my life, my thoughts and actions, and I am really getting to know myself for the first time. I know it sounds weird, but not only did I hide from everyone around me, I also hid from myself. <BR/><BR/>I am reaching the point where I don't care about what others think anymore - I don't want to hide or be safe anymore. It is really frightening, but at the same time, quite liberating.<BR/><BR/>Yes, we are safer, but I agree that ,for some at least (me), it is no longer worth it.Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09374110841642375968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2988935280992028565.post-77681527549519044632007-03-30T09:02:00.000-06:002007-03-30T09:02:00.000-06:00I agree with foxx on this one. Good luck to you.I agree with foxx on this one. Good luck to you.MoHoHawaiihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15086670779804942122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2988935280992028565.post-69238264637401571432007-03-30T07:35:00.000-06:002007-03-30T07:35:00.000-06:00My question is this: is the (perceived) safety wor...My question is this: is the (perceived) safety worth it?<BR/><BR/>When it comes to walls, barriers, masks, and the like, I have to ask myself if it's worth the effort to conceal my real feelings and thoughts from the world around me (and from myself). Usually, for me, the answer is no. It gets in the way of things that I desire: intimacy, emotion, and honesty, among others.<BR/><BR/>I think that we all grow up identifying with the masks that talk for us until you realize that you no longer care about what your mask was built to protect, or that it gets in the way of reality. <BR/><BR/>It is especially so for those in Camp Homo, who have felt they have to hide their real selves growing up, but I don't think that we get a special star for it. Everybody has things they want to protect. Everybody wants to feel safe from the world around them. I think people tend to hang on to that sense of security even when they understand how they are no longer in danger, even if they tear down that wall.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com